Learning Acceptance


Becoming Okay (When You're Not Okay) by Bryan Bushman, PhD


While many self-help books emphasize the importance of acceptance, how is it developed? Psychologist, Bryan Bushman, provides a step-by-step roadmap for anyone interested in learning how to rise above emotional or physical pain. Part I of the book suggests powerful ways we can avoid suffering through its innovative use of Buddhism's three paths of suffering. Part II of the book focuses on scientifically-grounded ways to develop acceptance. Combining the best of both eastern- and western-insights with the latest neuropsychological research, Dr. Bushman provides several, easy-to-remember steps that summarize information so people can live richer, more-balanced lives.

Universal in its application, there is something here for everyone. Whether you experience depression, anxiety, chronic illness, emotional trauma, relationship problems, or addictive behaviors, pain doesn’t have to define you. Using playful humor and powerful case examples, Becoming Okay (When You’re Not Okay) provides readers with scientifically-grounded, yet soul-expanding, exercises and insights. You can build a life of vitality and action – even while experiencing some of life’s greatest trials.

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What critics/ clinicians are saying....

*    “A powerfully detailed method of dealing with life’s pains and injustices.”  Kirkus Book Reviews

*     5 of 5 stars.  " A very useful resource for clinicians and non-clinicians alike."  Dr. Jon Ahern, South Davis Psychological Services

*     “The author packs a great deal of information into his pages, and he delivers all of it with the smooth skill of an expert teacher… He also includes many illustrations, including graphs and charts designed to convey multiple steps at a glance.”  Kirkus Book Reviews


What readers are saying...


*  5 (out of 5) stars.  "Fantastic!!"

"This year has been on of the most difficult years of my life. I love reading self-help books because I can always take a little piece from each to apply to my life. But, when I saw Becoming Okay When You’re Not Okay, I knew I had to give it a chance. I didn’t realize how not okay I was until I read it. Bryan Bushman had to have had a lot of pain in his life to be able to write such a compelling, emotional, and direct book. The book is easily broken down into two section. Part I focuses on Buddhism's three paths of suffering and how to use each of these steps to become better than you currently are. Part II of the book focuses entirely on scientific ways to overcome and accept. This is a book that I will gladly lend to anyone that needs it. Regardless of what you’ve ever been through, this book has something for you."  Brandi Perry (posted March 26, 2018)

*   4 (out of 5) stars.  "Useful and Helpful Self-Help Book Perfect for Those Who Aren't Usually Fans of Self-Help Books"

"I really liked this book, even though I’m not usually one for self-help books. I especially appreciated the tone Bushman took with his writing; I felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend. I also felt that Bushman’s writing was very straightforward and honest, he was clear right up front that he incorporated other sources into his text. I also respected the way he uses religion to complement his advice, as well as scientific principles, but is very clear that he’s not trying to convert readers, but is just using religion as a tool to teach. I also enjoyed his informal writing style. I felt his main point that we all have problems, but can choose how to respond to them is a simple and straightforward advice, but useful and necessary to know and something we all need to be reminded of once in awhile. I also felt that his real-life case studies helped effectively illustrate his points in this useful book."  Patricia (posted April 6th, 2018)

* 5 (out of 5) stars.    "I absolutely loved this book" 

"...This book is not full of platitudes but real, down-to-earth methods to promote healing, grounded in both Buddhist traditions and scientific research. It's worth saying that Bushman doesn't expect his readers to be in any way spiritual - while the book makes great use of Buddhist principles, these are all perfectly applicable to people of any (or no) religious background.  Structurally, the layout of the book is really useful, as I felt there was a helpful and logical progression from the beginning to the end - although sections can also be easily read independently. This means it can be a great book to sit and read from cover, or dip in and out of, whatever your preference.  I would highly recommend this book."  Katherine (posted April 9th, 2018)

About Me



Services Offered

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 Originally from Texas, Bryan Bushman received in undergraduate degree in psychology from the University of Texas at Austin. He received his MS and PhD degrees from Utah State University. He completed a pre-doctoral internship at Geisinger Medical Center in Danville, PA related to working with children and teens coping with anxiety, depression, and ADHD/ learning disabilities. He also completed a post-doctoral fellowship at St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital in Memphis, TN where he worked with patients who had cancer and other life-threatening conditions. Since completing his postdoctoral fellowship, Dr. Bushman has provided psychotherapy and neuropsychological assessment for patients at McKay-Dee Hospital’s Behavioral Health Institute in Ogden, Utah. Dr. Bushman has worked extensively with adults and children, who struggle with pain, self-harm behaviors, traumatic brain injury, and other neuropsychological dysfunctions. Dr. Bushman has been the author or co-author of articles published in peer-reviewed scientific journals. He is the author of Becoming Okay (When You're Not Okay.)  He consults frequently with school personnel and medical professionals regarding the treatment of anxiety and pain.  See his resume or CV under the "Handouts" tab.  


Services Offered

Services Offered

Services Offered

Dr. Bushman provides psychological/ neuropsychological testing services in his role as a psychologist at McKay-Dee's Behavioral Health Institute (for appointments call 801-387-5600)

Dr. Bushman also provides independent neuropsychological/ psychological assessment for litigants involved with traumatic brain injury through Bushman Consulting Services, PLLC (See "About Services" tab for specific tests employed.)

In addition to being an author, Dr. Bushman also presents to school counselors and medical professionals.  Topics include traumatic brain injury, parenting, anxiety, and depression.


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