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Pain is part of living; yet, humans naturally resist pain and – in the process of resisting – unintentionally create more pain for themselves and those they love. In contrast, acceptance softens the struggle with pain and increases the ability to live fully. While many self-help books discuss the importance of acceptance, few of them describe how to develop it. Now psychologist, Bryan Bushman, provides a step-by-step roadmap to help anyone develop acceptance and rise above physical and emotional pain. Combining eastern and western wisdom with the latest psychological research, Dr. Bushman provides readers with easy-to-remember steps that can help them reduce suffering and live richer, more-balanced lives!
Universal in application, there is something here for everyone. Whether you experience symptoms of depression, anxiety, trauma, physical illness, relationship problems or addictive behaviors, your pain doesn’t have to define you. Using playful humor and powerful case examples, Becoming Okay (When You’re Not Okay) demonstrates how you can build (or re-build) a life of vitality and meaning – even while experiencing some of life’s greatest trials.
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* “A powerfully detailed method of dealing with life’s pains and injustices.” - Kirkus Book Reviews
* 5 of 5 stars. " A very useful resource for clinicians and non-clinicians alike." - Jon Ahern, PhD; South Davis Psychological Services
* 5 of out 5 stars "A great read for both clinicians and anyone looking to get unstuck... In sum, I can give no higher recommendation than saying that this is the book I wish I would or could have written. ” - Tomas Olsen, PhD; McKay-Dee Behavioral Institute
* "A well-written self-help book that proves anyone can rebuild their lives – highly recommended!” [4 ½ out of 5 stars] - TopShelf Reviews
* “Recommended reading for proactive self-help readers who too commonly receive ethereal admonitions not backed up by actual step-by-step processes.” - Midwest Book Reviews
* “… a terrific job of summarizing succinctly the key steps to suffer less… offers a solid, helpful pathway to healing emotional pain.” - BlueInk Reviews
* “The author packs a great deal of information into his pages, and he delivers all of it with the smooth skill of an expert teacher…” - Kirkus Book Reviews
* 5 (out of 5) stars. "Fantastic!!"
"This year has been on of the most difficult years of my life. I love reading self-help books because I can always take a little piece from each to apply to my life. But, when I saw Becoming Okay When You’re Not Okay, I knew I had to give it a chance. I didn’t realize how not okay I was until I read it. Bryan Bushman had to have had a lot of pain in his life to be able to write such a compelling, emotional, and direct book. The book is easily broken down into two section. Part I focuses on Buddhism's three paths of suffering and how to use each of these steps to become better than you currently are. Part II of the book focuses entirely on scientific ways to overcome and accept. This is a book that I will gladly lend to anyone that needs it. Regardless of what you’ve ever been through, this book has something for you." Brandi Perry (posted March 26, 2018)
"I really liked this book, even though I’m not usually one for self-help books. I especially appreciated the tone Bushman took with his writing; I felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend. I also felt that Bushman’s writing was very straightforward and honest, he was clear right up front that he incorporated other sources into his text. I also respected the way he uses religion to complement his advice, as well as scientific principles, but is very clear that he’s not trying to convert readers, but is just using religion as a tool to teach. I also enjoyed his informal writing style. I felt his main point that we all have problems, but can choose how to respond to them is a simple and straightforward advice, but useful and necessary to know and something we all need to be reminded of once in awhile. I also felt that his real-life case studies helped effectively illustrate his points in this useful book." Patricia (posted April 6th, 2018)
* 5 (out of 5) stars. "I absolutely loved this book"
"...This book is not full of platitudes but real, down-to-earth methods to promote healing, grounded in both Buddhist traditions and scientific research. It's worth saying that Bushman doesn't expect his readers to be in any way spiritual - while the book makes great use of Buddhist principles, these are all perfectly applicable to people of any (or no) religious background. Structurally, the layout of the book is really useful, as I felt there was a helpful and logical progression from the beginning to the end - although sections can also be easily read independently. This means it can be a great book to sit and read from cover, or dip in and out of, whatever your preference. I would highly recommend this book." Katherine (posted April 9th, 2018)
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